Whether your wedding is in 6 months, 6 weeks or 6 days, I am sure you are trying to manage an ever growing to do list and an escalating stress level while trying to remain calm, cool, and collected. Trust me when I say, I’ve been there and it can be tricky. As both a planner and a bride, you are trying to juggle everything you have going on and still enjoy this exciting new chapter in your life. It can be hard.
While the solution to dealing with the stress could be to just pour a glass of wine, these six tips will ensure you make it through the other side of your freakout ready to tackle all the things.
Tip #1: Just Keep Swimming: Seriously. I’m snagging this tip from everyone’s favorite talking fish, Dori. The easiest way to not get overwhelmed is to focus on one task at a time. Don’t think about what has to get done in a week, in a day or in a hour. Focus on the one thing you’re trying to achieve right now and move on to the next task once that one is complete. Wedding planning is a process of juggling 100 balls at the same time without dropping one. It’s easy to get overwhelmed if you start thinking about planning as a whole instead of the task right in front of you.
Tip #2: Know When to Call it Quits: Sometimes you have to know when to just stop and walk away for a bit. If it’s late and you’re tired or you feel like you are half-ass-ing it no matter the reward at the end, just put it down and move along. Do something completely unrelated to the task you were having trouble completing and come back a few hours later or the next day and try again. Sometimes you just need a fresh mind and a new perspective to get it done.
Tip #3: Don’t be Afraid to Ask for Help: You may try like hell, but you are just one person and can’t do everything yourself. Know the limits of what you can handle and delegate the rest. Ask your fiancé, friends, or family to take some of the items off your plate that may not need your input to complete – like stuffing and mailing invitations, assembling welcome baskets and following up with all those guests you haven’t heard from yet. And for everything else, ask a wedding planner!
Tip #4: Set Aside “You” Time: When it feels like you have 1000 things to do, it’s incredibly easy to let your to-do list take over your life. But that’s not good for your mental health or relationship with your fiancé. Designate a specific time everyday or every week that you’re going to do something for yourself. Forget about wedding planning, work and everything else you have going on. Relax, have fun and enjoy this special time in your life.
Tip #5: Learn to Anticipate Future Tasks: This might seem difficult, especially if you feel like you have no idea what you’re doing when it comes to planning. While you might not be able to predict all future tasks, because again, you’ve never done this before, you can predict some. With each contract you receive, read through it in detail and write down all the expectations and due dates that vendor has for you – when menu selections are due, when your tasting will be, dates for final guests counts and payments. Put them in your calendar and set reminders so you don’t have to think about it again.
Tip #6: Always Carry a Notebook: This was something I learned from my boss at my first big girl job. It’s vital to always have something with you that you can take notes on – whether that be old fashioned pen and paper, the notes section on your phone or the notes section in your digital planning tools. When you think of something you need to do or remember, write it down. Getting it off your brain and on to a to do list will keep you from stressing that you’ve forgotten something.
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